Parenting for Anti-Racism

A Course for White Allies on Raising Anti-Racist White Children in the Age of Trump

In this self-paced online course with lifetime access, you’ll learn how to:

  • Talk to your kids about anti-racism in age-appropriate ways
  • Grow in your understanding of privilege, biases, and furthering your own anti-racism work
  • Compassionately guide kids through their mistakes and help them grow
  • Be an approachable, safe adult that kids can have tough conversations with.

By intentionally engaging in anti-racist dialogue with your kids, you will equip your kids early-on to face the issues of race and racism with humility and without fear.

Scholarship Fund
We set aside $1 out of every $4 for a scholarship fund for people who cannot afford the full price. For more information on scholarship options please see the FAQ below. Thanks!

The Course Includes:

5 Core Modules

Grow in your own understanding of privilege and bias, and learn skills and tools for teaching anti-racist values to your kids.

Readings and Exercises

Deepen and personalize that you've learned through written course materials and reflective journaling / discussion prompts.

Supplemental Materials

Visual aids, resource lists, and talking prompts offer context and practical guidance.

Coaching Session with a Course Leader

An optional one-on-one coaching session with a Course Leader helping you create a plan or navigate challenges that come up.

Email Support from the Course Leaders

You can also reach out to the Course Leaders via email or messaging if you have questions or need help at any time.

From the Course Leaders:

Kathi Valeii
Course Co-Leader

Donyae Coles
Course Co-Leader

Anti-racism work for white people is very specific: Responsibly educate ourselves, remove the burden from people of color of educating more privileged people about racism, and seek out other ways to support, listen, and elevate the work of people of color.

White parents and caregivers often feel at a loss of how to incorporate that work with their children and it is not, historically, a burden white people have taken upon themselves. Whiteness has afforded the ability to avoid difficult conversations about race with white children.

It's no wonder that white people feel confused about:

  • How to talk with kids about race and racism in a responsible way
  • Age-appropriate ways to talk about racism with kids
  • How to practically pull anti-racism concepts into everyday conversations
  • How to have discussions and example anti-racist values, while making mistakes and learning to address our own racism, too

Just as skill-building in other important areas takes practice, learning how to have anti-racist conversations with kids of all ages takes practice, too. And anyone who is motivated to tackle their own whiteness and systemic racism can learn to do it.

That's why we've developed the course, “Parenting for Anti-Racism” - to help you as a parent or caregiver gain the confidence to engage in some of the most important conversations you can have with your kids.

In this course, we draw on our personal experience of teaching anti-racist values to our own children and children that we are close to.

These experiences have been put together in an accessible, self-paced online course so that you can learn how to start having conversations (or grow the conversations you're already having) with your kids about being anti-racist.

What If Instead Of...

  • Feeling unsure about how to talk about racism with your kids.... you felt confident tackling tough conversations
  • Floundering about what is age-appropriate.... you had resources to guide you through talking to kids at different ages
  • Feeling defensive about privilege and bias.... you learned ways to explore those issues with your kids without guilt or shame
  • Avoiding news items and politics with your kids.... you embraced them as pivotal learning opportunities
  • Pretending to be perfect.... you shared your mistakes in order to help your kids learn how we can all do better


"Kathi's Guide to Raising Anti-Racist White Kids as a White Parent encouraged me in the small steps I have already taken and challenged me to take more.

It takes intentionality over the long haul to instill these values. Having tools, accountability, and reinforcement through a course are just what I need!"

- Kristin T.

Course Modules:

Module 1 – Starting with You

Each parent's experience of teaching racial justice to their kids will be slightly different because we're all at different stages in our own exploration of our own privilege, and our own anti-racism efforts.

In this module, you'll be honest about where you are in your own journey and discover areas of growth by:

  • Defining and exploring privilege, implicit bias, racial disparities, and activism
  • Seeking out ways to be an active accomplice
  • Pushing yourself to do even better

Module 2 – Lead by Example

Kids ingest the culture around them. The majority of our kids' values and norms will (at least initially) come from their families. What we say around the dinner table matters. What we are silent about matters, too. Beyond the individual level of assessing our own racism and privilege, it's important to understand the history and violence to whiteness, itself.

In this module, you'll identify opportunities to bring kids into anti-racist conversation by:

  • Exploring how whiteness as a norm affects your kids
  • Unpacking whiteness with your kids
  • Helping your kids reconcile their identities within the context of white violence
  • Incorporating racial justice into everyday dialogue

Module 3 – On Age-Appropriateness

An in-depth analysis of the school-to-prison pipeline is, obviously, not age-appropriate for preschoolers. At the same time, getting stuck on trite King quotes once a year on MLK Day is equally not age-appropriate for older children. So, what is the balance? What are some concrete age-appropriate examples?

In this module, you'll learn how to unpack race and racism with different age groups by:

  • Understanding different kids and different temperaments
  • Reviewing normal expectations for different age groups
  • Working through a variety of scenarios with different ages

Module 4 – Making Sure Kids Aren't Isolated

Kids whose entire lived experience – in school, at home, in their neighborhood, place of worship, the store – are completely insulated and surrounded by people who look like them, will not be equipped with an understanding of other people outside of what they are told / what they see in movies and on TV. This is how internal biases are built and maintained.

In this module, you'll unearth the importance of breaking kids out of a white bubble by:

  • Looking at how kids' surroundings equip them to understand the world
  • Examining how insulation promotes biases and works with racism
  • Breaking out of isolating patterns

Module 5 – Talk Openly About Privilege and Disparities

Eliminating tough conversations about race is something that is only afforded to the privileged. As we think about these conversations, we should absolutely challenge ourselves when we feel uncomfortable and consider the kinds of conversations parents of color don't have a choice about having with their own small children about racial disparities and tools for survival.

In this module, you'll learn how to talk to your kid(s) about privilege and disparities by:

  • Observing instances of privilege and disparities you see throughout the week
  • Talking about notable, systemic disparities, like the school-to-prison pipeline and police shootings of unarmed Black people
  • Naming privileges afforded to white people at the expense of POC

Still Not Sure the Course is Right for You?

We really want to make sure that this course is working for you.

If you find that it’s not for any reason, you can get a full refund anytime within the first 30 days of the course just by letting us know. So there’s no risk to enrolling now and getting the support you deserve!

Course Co-Leaders

Donyae Coles
Course Co-Leader
Donyae Coles is a freelance writer and contributing writer for Resist Media. Her work speaks frankly about race and how it intersects with other issues such as parenting, technology, and the media. She believes in an intersectional approach to teaching and parenting and works to provide resources that address the complexities of race to help families become proactively anti-racist. She is a mother herself in an interracial relationship and understands firsthand how difficult anti-racism education can be but also how essential it is to ensuring a positive future for all of our children.

Kathi Valeii
Course Co-Leader

Kathi Valeii is a freelance writer, activist, and contributing writer for Resist Media, whose work has appeared in the New York Times, Everyday Feminism, and The Establishment, among others. Kathi's writing often centers around the intersection of social justice and parenting. Her activism and writing began as an exploration of full spectrum reproductive justice issues after she experienced abuse during the pregnancy and birth of her first child. Her work evolved to include other justice issues as she continued to learn how race, class, gender, sexual orientation, (and other "isms") intersect with reproductive issues and parenting. As a white parent to three white kids, one of her top parental priorities is to teach her kids anti-racist and anti-sexist values. In her free time Kathi loves to camp, play in the woods, and treasure hunt at garage sales.


Course FAQ

When does the course start and finish?

The course is instantly available as soon as you sign-up. It is self-paced, so you decide when you start and when you finish. Each week you'll get access to a new lesson, giving you time to work with the readings and exercises before moving onto the next lesson.

How will I access everything?

After signing up, you will receive an email with directions on how to access your course. From within the course intranet, you will be able to do everything – from accessing the course lessons to contacting the teacher to leaving questions or comments. Your access never expires to the course so you can come back whenever you need support.

How long do I have access to the course?

After enrolling, you have unlimited access to this course for as long as you like - across any and all devices you own.

What if I can't afford the full course price?

We're committed to making Social Justice U courses accessible for those with less income and wealth.

Here are some options if you can't afford the full course cost:

  • Refer someone: If you refer someone to the course who signs up, have them tell us via the Contact Us form. You’ll get 25% of the fee refunded to you. So if you get 4 friends to join you, you get the course for free! Note that this also retroactive, so it’s ok if you’ve already signed-up, you’ll still get the discount!
  • Apply for a scholarship: As part of our commitment to social justice and accessibility, Social Justice U has a scholarship fund that receives $1 of every $4 earned from course sales. Go here to learn more and apply.

I’ve taken another Social Justice U course. Do I get a repeat customer discount?

Yes! We do give a 15% repeat customer discount as our thank you! If you’ve enrolled in one of other online courses and are enrolling in a new one, please let us know via the Contact Us form. We’ll email you back to confirm that we’re refunding you 15% of the course fee.

What if I am unhappy with the course?

We have a no-questions-asked 30 day guarantee. If you are unsatisfied with your purchase, contact us in the first 30 days and we will give you a full refund!

Is the course accessible for people with a hearing impairment?

Yes, it is – the entire course is text-based.

This course is not open for enrollment.